by Tara Brunet, Training by Tara Brunet –
Are you waiting on the weight? Do you have things that you are waiting to do, wear, or experience until you reach a certain “goal weight?”
What if I said you could do all of those things today?
I’m sure wearing a bikini right now sounds a little bit terrifying, or going on a first date and putting yourself out there seems impossible, but how long are you going to keep putting these things off?
A funny thing starts happening when you stop waiting on the weight. First, you realize no one cares what you look like in a bikini except for you, and then you realize you are worthy of love no matter what size you are. You are worthy of anything you want! This idea – called radical self love and acceptance – starts with loving every inch of yourself despite your perceived imperfections. It means eating nourishing foods from every single food group, no longer labelling foods “good” or “bad,” and just eating what you truly crave. It means living your best possible life starting today – no weight loss required.
The first step is get out there and start doing everything you said you would do when you reached your goal … but now! Go buy that gorgeous lingerie and slinky dress! Rock your bikini on your next vacation without a care in the world, and go ask out that guy you’ve been eyeing at the coffee shop. You can have and achieve anything you want, regardless of the size of your body.
Then, start unabashedly loving the food you put in your body and find ways to move that make you feel unstoppable. Start tuning into what your body desires, whether it’s a fresh crisp apple or a fresh-out-of-the-oven apple pie. These foods will have the same pull on you when you start allowing all foods into your diet. There are no restrictions, and therefore no reason to overeat. All foods are available for your enjoyment in unlimited quantities. I know you are probably thinking “Sounds nice in theory, but I’m pretty sure I will never stop eating.” When you start to recognize certain foods are no longer off limits, the guilt and shame goes away, along with the rest of the deprivation and binging cycle. When you can learn to completely trust your body, there’s no need to disrespect it with food. This process is called Intuitive Eating. Through intuitive eating and exercise, you will end up at the perfect weight for you. Perhaps this is heavier than you thought was your ideal weight, and perhaps it’s lighter. It’s time to throw out the scale and stop relying on external sources to tell us how we should feel about ourselves. Exercise should be enjoyable and make you feel empowered, not exhausted.
As women, we are so unbelievably hard on ourselves when it comes to our bodies, and as a society it seems to be encouraged. I encourage you to step out of this mold that has shaped us and create your own ideal of what your body should look and feel like. Put the joy back into health, exercise and eating and start loving every second of your life.
And please, stop waiting on the weight.
