How do we find love? Perhaps with a little help from our friends, family and fate?
I sat down with my 12-year-old daughter recently to talk to her about the importance of love and friendship in her life. We talked about the girlfriends she has now, and her hope that they will remain close as they grow up. At her young age, she is only beginning to grasp the importance of friendship and love and how those experiences will come and go.
When I lost my mother last year, the experience was one of unspeakable words and feelings. I crossed over many emotions. At the time, none of it made sense but as my experiences in life have grown, the memories and wounds have been better understood and healed. I’ve recently been faced with a few more challenges, and have been thinking about the fact that we don’t get to choose our parents and siblings. Those are given to us at birth.
But what about our friends and lovers? Do we choose them, or do they stumble into our lives for a reason? Perhaps it’s both. Just like life itself: do we have full control of it, or is it predetermined by some mysterious force?
Recently I’ve been reading bits and pieces of Wayne Dyer’s blogs, and in one he writes about trusting divine order, explaining that everything arrives from intentions, where invisible life flows through everyone and everything. He then asks us to think about all the people who share the stage with us as we move through life. The good times, the struggles, the tears, the abuse – all of it involved people coming into our lives, and then leaving.
He says “viewing the past as a play in which all characters and all entrances and exits were scripted by your Source and represent what you attracted at the time, frees you from guilt, and even revenge. As a result you go from being an actor who’s influenced by others playing the roles of producer and director, to being writer, producer, director, and the star of your glorious life. Imagine, you can audition anyone you choose.”
I think this is brilliant.
So, I tell my daughter, regardless of how, where and why people come into our lives, we should gain and fill our plates with knowledge, and take trust from it. If they go, we let them go from a place of love, not of fear or anger.
